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Understanding Options with Co-Parenting

Learn to make child-focused decisions during separation, even when you're unsure what’s best

Updated over 2 months ago

Getting Help to Decide What’s Best for Your Children


During times of transition, it can be difficult to know what arrangements will truly support your children’s well-being. Many parents want to do what is best but feel unsure about how to make those decisions, especially when emotions are running high or circumstances are changing.

The good news is that there are professionals who can help. Child-focused services such as parenting coordinators, family counsellors, and child development specialists can offer guidance, practical tools, and insight into what children need during and after separation. These experts can help you understand how different parenting arrangements might affect your child based on their age, temperament, and unique needs.

Whether you are working through mediation or negotiating on your own, these professionals can:

  • Help you stay focused on your children’s needs even in challenging conversations.

  • Explore age-appropriate parenting plans that provide stability and predictability for your children.

  • Support you in building a parenting framework that promotes your children’s long-term health and emotional well-being.

Seeking out this kind of support can be a proactive step toward creating a thoughtful plan that puts your children at the centre in a positive and balanced way.

Child specialists, psychologists, and counsellors

Professionals such as child specialists, psychologists, and counsellors can provide valuable support during separation. They can work directly with parents and children to help determine what arrangements are in the child’s best interests, taking into account the child’s age, developmental stage, and family circumstances.

These professionals can be involved whether you are going through mediation or making decisions on your own. Their insight can help ensure that parenting plans and communication strategies reflect what your children need during this transition.

Hear the Child reports

One option available in some regions is a Hear the Child Report. These reports are prepared by trained, neutral professionals who meet with your child and provide a written summary of the child's views and preferences. This information can be helpful in creating a parenting plan that reflects the child’s experience and voice.

To find professionals who offer this service, look for organizations or registries that maintain rosters of qualified practitioners in your area. In BC, the Hear the Child Society is a great resource to learn more and find a qualified professional.


Important Disclaimer

Content and videos in The Divii Knowledge Centre provide general information about separation and divorce and is not and should not be considered legal advice. For guidance specific to your situation, it's important to consult with a qualified family lawyer in your area. It's always highly recommended to seek independent legal advice during your separation.


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