Divii can be used by separating couples who are working together or separately within the platform. If you have a relatively good working relationship with your spouse, then you can come into Divii and learn together, discuss the issues, make decisions, and collaborate on editing and finalizing your agreement.

That would be the quickest path, but not everyone is going to be able to work together seamlessly. You might find that it's best to work separately, but even in situations where you're going to work apart, you're going to need your spouse's input in order to be successful.

It’s extremely rare to see a circumstance where one spouse creates a proposal, sends it off to the other spouse, and they look at it and say "Yes to it all." There's always a counter proposal and something that's going to go back and forth – and if you're in typical circumstances with lawyers, it can go back and forth for a long time.

Your spouse is going to have some goals in mind and you'll want to consider those goals to get to an outcome that you're both happy with. The earlier that you can figure out those goals, the earlier you're going to be able to propose a plan that they're going to agree to.

When you start the process in Divii, you begin by entering your basic information, ensuring it’s written out how you want to see it in the agreement.

You should then invite your spouse to add their details into Divii and review the education materials. When you both have access to the same information and you're starting from a common ground of understanding, things are much easier moving forward. There can be a lot less to discuss and fight about when you both have a good sense of what the law is.

You'll both want to complete:

The results of the questionnaires will be emailed to you when you're finished, so you can forward them to each other and understand what's driving each of you. The questionnaires are going to help you understand how to structure the agreement so be sure to share your results with each other to help understand each other’s goals.

Recitals are the facts upon which the agreement is based. They are laid out at the beginning of the agreement in lettered paragraphs.

Agreement sections consist of additional clauses added to designated sections in the agreement body and are laid out in numbered paragraphs.

Feel free to run different scenarios around parenting schedules and property distribution. You can also run scenarios using Divii’s Additional Tools including the Holiday Schedule, Expense Schedule, and Personal Property Schedule.

Even when you're working separately, consider a video call to discuss visions. Zoom, Microsoft Teams, or Google Meet are great options, especially when things are tense but you still want to have a conversation.

The online format provides distance, less intensity, and more control because with the push of a button you can:

But you're still able to collaborate.

Whether you're on a call or in writing, ask clarifying questions. It's important to understand what the other person is thinking and why.

Use the questions in the negotiation cheat sheet to expand the conversation. You might want to consult the collaborative communication sheet, too. When your spouse asks you questions, you can consult the communication sheet to help you figure out what your answer might be.

The next step is to view the document in the preview and review it in the summary page. You want to agree on things at a high level before moving into the Editor.

You and your spouse are going to be able to see:

When reviewing the overall proposal that you make, they can see the summary of it in a summary page as well. It's in the summary page that you'll be able to go back and forth using comments on the overall structure of the agreement.

It's a good idea if you want to at this stage to jump on a Zoom call with your spouse and invite your lawyers into the agreement so that you can get some feedback before moving on.

As you go back and forth with comments – whether it's just you and your spouse or you have your lawyers in there as well – and as as you come to agreements in each section, turn those sections green. That will allow you to know that you've come to an agreement there and you don't need to spend any more time on that section.

You'll concentrate then on the other pieces of the agreement until you get the whole document green, and that means that you've come to an overall solution.

Now you're ready to proceed to the Editor. There's a button in the right-hand corner of the summary page that lets you move into the Editor.

You and your spouse can add comments and use track changes to suggest edits in the Editor. You'll both be able to share the agreement with your lawyers as well so that they can add their suggestions, too.

The main agreement owner is the one who can accept all of the changes and integrate them into the overall document. Another option for the owner is to add their lawyer as a level one lawyer, which grants them full access to make changes and edits in Divii.