Learning how to better communicate with your spouse during this difficult process can make things much easier and more efficient. Here are a few key principles to help you communicate and create a fair agreement.

First, take time to process your emotions before making major decisions. Avoid rushing to make a decision while emotionally charged or causing more stress by making decisions too late.

In the early stages, start gathering documents, reviewing educational videos, input your information on Divii, and explore your options early. You'll know you're ready when you start thinking about practical issues like parenting, living arrangements, and finances.

Second, keep discussions focused only on parenting and finances; don't try to resolve personality conflicts or deeper relationship issues (according to the Gottman Institute, 69% of relationship conflict is unresolvable).

If a disagreement arises and it doesn't lead to a solution, set it aside for later and stick to important topics that will lead you to a resolution.

Third, remember this is a joint agreement requiring both of you to agree on the outcome. Success comes from listening to each other's needs and finding creative solutions that work for both of you.